A Fatal Conversation Blunder that Kills the Connection with People

When you hang-out with people, is it your aim to really and truly connect with them at a deep level?

If so, have you ever thought about what is responsible for creating those connections?

What’s the root cause behind them?

And are aware that people make a fatal blunder in their conversations that destroys any chance of these kinds of meaningful connections, and they do it without even realizing it?

Would you like to know what it is, so you can be prepared to handle this situation whenever it comes up in your conversations?

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An Overlooked Mistake People Make that Lowers Their Reputation

When you’re finished spending time with someone (or a group of people), how do you bring the interaction to a close?

How do you bid them good-bye?

Do you ever thank them for hanging out with you?

You know, do you ever say things like: “Thanks for coming down,” or “Thanks for having me over”?

If you do, have you ever questioned what you’re really communicating to them?

Are you aware that you’re actually communicating something negative about yourself by doing this?

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A Shameful Way People Damage Their Relationships (and What to Do About It)

Do you ever preach at people in your conversations with them?

Knowing they hold a conflicting or opposing viewpoint than your own, do you ever put in an effort to try to show them the errors in thinking and try to correct or even “enlighten” them?

And taking it deeper…

Do you see it as your obligation or perhaps even your mission to convert people to what you believe is the truth, something to which you think the other person is ignorant of?

And finally, do you see this as doing them a great service or favor?

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A Simple Trick to Ask People Personal Questions without Being Invasive

Have you ever wanted to know something about someone but you were concerned that asking them outright for the answer might be too invasive and come across as nosy, or like you’re crossing an unspoken boundary with them?

Or perhaps you’ve only met the person or have only known them for a short period and asking the question might come across too forward because the trust just hasn’t been established yet?

Is there a way to deal with this situation effectively – or get the information you want from them without them finding your efforts too upfront or awkward?

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Why Criticizing People Doesn’t Get Them to Change (and What Actually Works)

Do you ever criticize the people in your life, hoping it will get them to change themselves or their behavior?

When people act in ways that turn you off, do you ever find fault with them by condemning them for what they’re “doing wrong”?

You know, do you ever find yourself saying: “You never [insert desirable behavior]” or “You always [insert undesirable behavior]”?

You want them to change, right?

But does this approach actually working to bring about those changes?

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Why People Throw Temper Tantrums and How to Handle Them

Have you ever had someone throw a temper tantrum in your presence – and we’re not talking about a child here, but a full grown adult?

You know, when things didn’t go their way or they didn’t get what they wanted from a situation, they unleashed an aggressive outburst aimed directly at you?

If so, how did you handle yourself?

How did you respond to the situation?

Did you tremble in their midst, cave under the pressure their outburst created, and ultimately back down and submit to their “demands” or “wishes”?

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What to Say to People Who Give You Annoying Unsolicited Advice

Do you ever have people give you advice you never asked them for?

If so, and if you’re honest with your emotions, how did it make you feel?

Didn’t you ultimately feel a little victimized by it?

Didn’t it make you feel somewhat small and inferior to the person giving it, because they framed themselves in a way that made them look like they had superior knowledge and wisdom than you, even if you knew they didn’t know what they were talking about?

Well, what’s the best way to deal with this situation?

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How to Meet People and Turn Strangers into Friends

What’s the difference between someone you consider a stranger and someone you consider a friend?

Isn’t a part of it found in the fact that, with a friend, you know things about each other and about each other’s lives?

And if that’s true, how do you intentionally go about getting to know things about other people and sharing things with them about yourself?

How do you go from talking to someone for the first time, building on that interaction, and turning that meeting into a friendship or relationship?

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